Hastings and Rother Mediation

Grandparents Need Grandchildren

    After divorce or separation children often miss contact with members of their extended family - grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins.

    Grandparents play an important part in the lives of their grandchildren, and it’s usually a positive thing if they can stay in touch after there has been a separation or divorce.

    Children benefit from reassurance in times of change. They need to know:

    • It is not their fault
    • They are loved
    • They have someone to talk to about their feelings

    Listening without criticism of either parent will help them continue to talk about their feelings.

I used to see my grandchildren, but now I am not allowed to. What rights do I have?

    Grandparents have no automatic right to be part of their grandchild’s life. Mediation can help reduce conflict between family members after separation or divorce, and it is often the best way to resume contact. As a last resort, the court can be approached to make a child arrangement order. This will happen if the court considers it to be in the child’s best interests.

What help can I get to begin the mediation process?

    If you feel unable to contact the adults who care for your grandchild/ren, you may wish to approach our service for help. Our experienced staff can explain the process of mediation, and discuss with you the best way of inviting your relatives to participate. They will also advise about the costs of mediation, and whether you are eligible for help in meeting these costs.

Can I insist my family takes part in mediation?

    No. Mediation is voluntary for all parties. It offers a safe place for families to make decisions in the best interests of their children. Mediators are professionally trained. They will help you negotiate with your family and help you to reach a settlement for future relationships with your grandchildren.

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